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See that picture? That's exactly how I feel most days. I feel like people expect me to be a perfect mother, homemaker, friend, gym rat (runner, yogi, etc). Now that I'll will be joining the workforce again shortly, I also want to be the best employee. 

Some days I feel like Superwoman. I got this. I can play with the kids, help with homework, squeeze in a workout (and maybe even a shower) while Dino is napping, text and Facebook my friends, read a few pages of a book, cook a fantastic lasagna or enchilada casserole, do the dishes, bathe the kids, write a blog, and still have 30 seconds left to breathe. 

Some days, like today, I want to sit in my pajamas until noon and sip my coffee while watching Jersey Shore reruns. Then the guilt sets in. What could I be doing? What should I be doing? Instead of sitting in front of the computer typing this, I could be folding the laundry, working out, calling my grandma, getting Belle's school stuff ready for a new week, researching Master's Degree programs, making $.50 an hour on Amazon Turk, or anything other than being a bump on a log. 

Sometimes I try to justify it by saying that I deserve a break. Or, like right now, I have a cold and I don't feel like doing anything productive. But it also seems like everything falls apart if I skip a day. Laundry and dishes pile up, kids are cranky, I gain 5 pounds because I order Chinese food instead of cooking healthy meals, and then I'm even more overwhelmed because I have to work even harder to catch up.

What all moms need, especially myself, is a way to balance all of life's responsibilities so things don't get so chaotic when mommy is out of commission. You would think that I'd have this figured out well into my 6th year of motherhood, but life is unpredictable and circumstances change. 

I just needed to vent, but any advice is welcome. In the meantime, I hear the couch calling my name. Have a good day! :)

 


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02/18/2012 11:54

As you know, I am not a mommy :), but I can tell you that it isn't just mommies who need breaks. I think all women tend to fill our plates too full. I have no room to talk, what with 1 full-time job, 2 part-time assistantships, my own independent projects for grad school, and yoga/running/cycling/swimming/etc.

The guilt sets in for me, too. Today, for example - all I want to do is go home and organize my closet. But I really should work out.

I think all women need to find a small place within every day to take a mini-break for themselves. 10 minutes, an hour . . . whatever you can spare. Then it doesn't build up to the point that it's unbearable.

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